Wow! Its been a busy winter right into a crazy spring and I’ve been scrambling to keep up with work, fun, and obviously Coach’s blog!
Among my todo’s this year is a Book that will more or less be comprised of thought sketches and lessons which I hope will cast a positive perspective on our mistakes and lead us to shore.
I’m sharing a few lines in high hopes that you haven’t forgotten me! Life rolls on and though I don’t see a huge break in the surf I so enjoy my little slices of time here as your coach. I hope you enjoy the following excerpt. “C”
It’s the summer of 2010 and the monster moment is just about to strike. The inevitably cruel moment when each of us realizes, we’re not awesome yet. It’s always at the pinnacle of our coolness; right when we’ve reached the top of the social mountain, and we’re just about to place that confidence incrusted crown on top of our royal noggins’ that the monster rears back and drills us right in the center of our chest. Our heart breaks; falling weak to our knees we frantically search our memory banks for shelter from this, the harshest of truths and cruelest of realities. We begin to doubt every move we make and thing we say; wondering if all those Atta-boys bestowed by parents, family members, teachers, and coaches were all just bull—-. It’s at precisely that moment that we get our first glimpse of the real world; with its insecurities, fears, black holes, and bottomless pits of self pity that hungrily anticipate our stumbles and eagerly await the chance to gobble us up. It’s also at this moment that we are presented the first of our precious weapons to defend against such monsters. The monster moment came for him at 9:00am Saturday morning without warning, piercing his heart, and leaving him with only one weapon with which to fight; courage.
You know, God made us the most amazing, interesting, and dangerous species to walk the earth. Right now, I want you to look at the person next to you and I want you to shake their hand, because in all of history there will never be another person exactly like them. Now, I want you to look them in the eyes and say thank you because in some secret or outgoing way they have helped or will help you in your life. Just the simplest thing like helping them with their books or saying “you can” can not only change the way they feel about you but change the way they feel about themselves for that hour or the rest of their lives. Everyone in this room and in the state and in this world is very special and very unique. You are special! You are unique! Let that sink inside you for a second…you are great! So I want you to look that person straight in the eyes and tell them with all your heart and soul – “It is an honor to shake your hand”.
– Jake Brinn
This is a short but powerful grouping of words written by my son while searching for some answers. He was eleven. Sounds like a good idea to me…
Did you make one? Still thinking about it? New Year’s resolutions crack me up! Haven’t made one in at least ten years! In fact, I don’t remember the last time I did. Oh, I’m for self improvement and its rewards but seriously how many people actually keep them? Statistics say between 60 and 70 percent of the 40 percent who even bother; cave on their “Res’. Not surprising right? Ok, so stop focusing on the end results and start focusing on the process; the journey. It’s not so overwhelming and unattainable that way. Anyway it’s the journey that determines a life’s worth in my opinion; the day to day actions. I still achieve the desired effect (self improvement) but instead of one big goal; my year is chocked full of little ones; some attainable in as little as a day. Pack enough successful days into a year and it will change your life! Still, prepare to push the limits! Rules; break them, expectations; exceed them, deadlines; beat them, and never, ever quit! Be a goal attaining Superhero like me! Truth is; the bits and pieces that make up your year determine its outcome. It’s simple; what ever you think about every day you’ll become, so what are you thinking about? Go with it, and don’t worry so much about heading in the right direction. It might not be exactly where you intended to go but trust me it’s where you want to go. There’s no need to dream up goals that aren’t really goals; their already there inside your head; shouting at you every day; me, me, pick me! They’re the modifications, and improvements that you can’t stop thinking about…ever. And once you get them out of the way, you’ll see lot’s more waiting for their turn. Too often people target goals with billboard appeal that have no real meaning or purpose for them personally. “I’m going to start losing weight” Is that really what you want to do or would you rather run your first 5k? How about a ski trip to the mountains for a week? Why not take surfing lessons? While getting in shape for your adventure the weight will fall off by default! See what I mean? Remember; their already in your head, just go with it. Instead of “Become a better person” I decided to fix a few personality flaws; we all have them and probably know it; but we’ve ignored them so long that ignoring them has become a personality flaw in itself. These little monsters intrigued me so… I went with it. I ambitiously decided to tweak a personality flaw a day; thinking it should take a week or so to clean up my act. That was ridiculous of course and lasted about…one day. I realized I was a bit more screwed up than I thought and decided to give it a little more time so…well let’s just say it takes a lot of time to make a personality flaw modification. I mean after 30 years or so a guy gets pretty messed up folks. We’re talking hardened habits that I thought were ME! Now I had to face the fact that I was simply being way to easy on myself and that needed to change too, and…whew! Bottom line; by focusing on a mini goal I subsequently fixed lots of little issues along the way by default. I can’t tell you how many problems I fixed by waiting 20 minutes to cool down before charging into a family debate LOL. It’s actually pretty fun. Kind of like playing dress up with your personality, and you get to keep the clothes! Anyway; here is a partial list of my yearly “Goals’ for the stupendous 10’s. Cheers everyone!
Set goals not restrictions.
We don’t like to be told NO…Ex: I’ll try new healthy recipes from Bodytek’s recipes of the month list.
Instead of: I won’t eat junk food anymore.
The first thing out of my mouth each day will be something positive or complementary to who ever I meet.
This one always takes me to a higher place; both socially and mentally in too many ways to list.
Help a friend with a big “To do” project and ask for nothing in return.
Duh…but in case it’s been a while; the journey is what’s important.
Walk a mile in their shoes.
By performing someone else’s duties for spell; I’ll grow my appreciation for their efforts and be more forgiving when critiquing. Essential for humanizing the daily grind amongst co-workers, friends, and family.
Make my “Truly happy” list and start checking those bad boys off!
Don’t expect to see a lot of “Things” on this list. I’m always surprised at what makes me truly happy is so simple and requires more time than money. There’s a message here somewhere?
I make time to journal. When no one wants to listen to me whine, crow, or reminisce, my journal will. Recap the past month or so and feel your blood pressure drop as you scribble down memories.
Engineer a new way to save money.
It’s a scientific fact that financial independence provides feelings of security which lead to a happier longer life. Remember that saving is the same as making and making often increases stress instead of helping the problem.
Do one thing everyday to keep myself physically fit.
Physically fit people most often: have stronger heart and lungs (stop smoking by default), healthy cholesterol levels (stay off meds), faster metabolic rates (burn fat faster), reduced stress, more frequent endorphin release which makes us feel great, feel confident, socialize more easily, are millionaires…it could happen! J
When it comes to being the best you can be, it’s simple. Put your goal first, give your best every time, and most of all never make deals with yourself to justify quitting.
Recently one of my student athletes was on the fence you might say. Tired and weary of dieting to hold his weight for the mid season wrestle offs while everyone else (seemingly) was taking it easy enjoying the break; he was precariously close to the edge of self pity. I noticed that he’d stopped peddling his bike during workout. Sweat dripping off his nose and chin; he sat, staring despondently at the floor in defeat. This is an edited version of our words:
“Everybody’s a champion buddy. Some of us lead while others follow, but we all face the pain; it’s going to hurt. The scariest feeling is right before a workout because you know you won’t quit until every ounce of energy is gone. Your lungs will scream, your legs will burn like fire, and you’ll probably get sick…again. And when your defining moment arrives, you won’t negotiate; you’ll fight. No deals; all in; be the best or get beat. Who you are when you’re at your best is worth everything you’ll do to get there. You’ll need to be the only athlete that never shows pain. You’ll make weight every time, never complain, or show weakness to your teammates or adversaries. Right now, this very minute you decide who you are and what you’ll become.”
Being a leader is so hard; he replied holding back tears. Yes, and so is defeat son. Which one feels better? We sat quietly for some time; he started pedaling again, and this time with such devotion and determination it would inspire even the most overwhelmed soul to rally back and win. It was an awesome site to witness.
I pressed on: Each member of your team will follow you; never giving less than 100%, never showing weakness, and never making deals to satisfy their conscience. You’ll lead your team to the state championships one victorious day at a time. It only takes one person to change the course of history and you’re that person. Lead!
To get something you’ve never had; you’ll have to do something you’ve never done. No bargains, no deals; that’s what makes a champion.